My life has taken a turn in a new direction. About one month or so ago, I ran into my old neighbor/classmate/girlfriend, Kathy. I had the kids with me then. We drove by her house and I recognized her out raking leaves. I jokingly told the kids I was going to stop and talk to that cute girl raking leaves. I drove around the block a couple times to get a better look(I told the kids that). When I stopped and turned around, Tyler’s head snapped toward me and with an almost panicked look, he stated, “Dad, you are not!”. We pulled into the driveway. I got out and approached my old friend. She greeted me with a big hug and hello. Then, she introduced me to the little boy standing next to her. His name is Owen and he is her 5 year old grandson. He was visiting Grandma for Easter break. By this time, my kids had gotten out of the car and I introduced them. We spent the next 5 or 6 hours catching up. I hadn’t seen her since before Kayla was born (over 11 years). We were both married at the time. She divorced her husband about 2 years ago. I took the kids home, and after they went to bed, called Kathy and talked late into the night. We talked late into the night the next night too. On Monday, I asked her out to dinner. I drove up to her house from Bay City. We walked to the diner up town and had dinner. During our conversations, we discovered we have so much in common. We also discovered we still had feelings for each other even after all these years. We have become inseparable the last few weeks. Her kids are grown. I met her daughter yesterday (I hadn’t seen her since she was 5 or 6). The one thing I am having a hard time with is not having to support her. I have never been with someone I wasn’t “responsible” for financially. Everyone I have ever been with required my support. I paid the way. It is difficult for me to accept that I don’t have to do that with her. I am not used to it. She has a good job, owns her own house, her vehicle is paid for, and all her bills are paid. I’ve always worried that people were with me because I supported them. I know I won’t have to worry about that, we’re together because we love each other. Last Friday, we went to the courthouse in Harrison and purchased a marriage license. This Friday, we are getting married. I haven’t been this happy for this long since Kayla was born. The kids seem to be excited about it. They like Kathy and she likes them. We spent a weekend up here with the kids and all had a good time.
To update everyone, I have quit smoking. I haven’t had a cigarette since April 16th. Twelve days. Some days have been harder than others. I am continuing on the Chantix. It does help. I have never been so determined to quit and think I can do it permanently this time. The hardest time is still while driving. I will make it. Enough writing for now, have stuff to do. I do hope everyone has a great week.

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